當孩子陷入虛假的努力時(shí)，父母會(huì )做什么。

很多家長(cháng)可能會(huì )有這樣的疑問(wèn)：孩子平時(shí)學(xué)習很努力，很聽(tīng)話(huà)，但為什么考試成績(jì)不理想呢？其實(shí)，也有很多孩子可能存在uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu家長(cháng)一定要注意觀(guān)察孩子，分清孩子的學(xué)習狀況，只有幫助孩子避免虛勞，才能充分感受到學(xué)習的樂(lè )趣。.

為了避免讓孩子陷入uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

什么是有效的‘真正的努力’？

合理規劃時(shí)間，在正確的時(shí)間做正確的事

很多孩子可能都看到過(guò)這樣的現象：當他們應該認真、努力學(xué)習的時(shí)候，思考游戲；當他們應該輕松愉快地玩耍的時(shí)候，思考未完成的作業(yè)和即將開(kāi)始的學(xué)習。這樣，無(wú)論是學(xué)習還是玩耍，孩子都不能全身心地投入其中，所以他可以在生活中的任何時(shí)候做自己應該做的事情。

教會(huì )孩子思考、總結、發(fā)現和解決問(wèn)題

有的孩子在一天的課上，到了所有的課上都是uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu其實(shí)，其實(shí)并不一定，大多數時(shí)候孩子的所謂沒(méi)有問(wèn)題其實(shí)是指孩子不理解，而是因為面子或其他原因怕開(kāi)口。因此，對于孩子，特別是中學(xué)生來(lái)說(shuō)，作為家長(cháng)，我們必須引導他學(xué)會(huì )思考和總結，善于發(fā)現和解決問(wèn)題，從而培養孩子的自主學(xué)習能力，而不是披著(zhù)沒(méi)有進(jìn)步的勤奮的外衣。.

父母不能用時(shí)間來(lái)衡量自己的努力

有這樣一個(gè)誤區，家長(cháng)一定要避免，那就是認為孩子只要坐在課桌前處于uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

孩子長(cháng)期處于uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu為了避免出現這樣的問(wèn)題，家長(cháng)要關(guān)注孩子的狀態(tài)，辨別真偽的努力。